Brett and Rachel left for Idaho today. Before they left we had fun playing with them. Jorja and the girls had fun making a music video together.
Eve being filmed by Jorja, Grace & Mina
Editing meeting
Jorja had two dates today. A lunch date with a boy named Isaac. They went to Costa Vida and the pet store for some reason. She had a great time.
Jorja & Isaac
Tonight Jorja had a date with Teegan. She doubled with Ebony who took Cinco and Madison who took some tall dude. It was a simple date, but everyone seemed to have a great time. They went to the store and bought ingredients for food. Came home and made pizza and played Jackbox games. Again, Jorja had a great time. Teegan is in our ward and is super nice.
Cinco & Emily, Jorja & Teegan, Tall dude & Madison
That was the two dates. Now for the break up. Jorja was dating a boy named Spencer. He was nice and everything, until Jorja went to Taiwan. She didn't have a lot of contact with him while she was there. WiFi was hard, we barely heard from her, time zones were different and she was busy, busy, busy. They had a date when she got back. At least Jorja thought it was a date. Spencer ended up taking her out to dinner with his family. That didn't bother her. Their first date was with his family. Then they went back to his house and she hung out with his little siblings while he talked to his parents. Then he invited one of his friends over to watch a movie with them. Jorja was so confused. She wanted to tell him about Taiwan, and he never asked. She also wanted to hear about his trips, but he wasn't interested in talking to her. They watched a movie and then Spencer said he had to get Jorja home. It was way early, she told him she had permission to stay out until 11:30. So, he decided they should watch another movie. Then he took her home. Jorja was a half an hour early, but at this point she didn't care. She was so sad she just wanted to get home. She called me. I was in Idaho. It made no sense.
Anyways, Spencer left the next day for St. George. Jorja texted him and asked when he would be home. He said next Thursday. She asked if he would like to go on a date the following Friday, which would have been today. He said he would let her know. Then didn't send any kind of message to her at all for a week. He used to message her all the time. Not a crazy amount, but this was weird and Jorja could tell something was off. One week later Jorja sent him another text asking if Friday at 5:30 would work. He said, "Oh....I meant to tell you. I will still be in St. George and then I have a family reunion on Saturday, so I can't go." Jorja is leaving tomorrow and will be gone until school starts. She was so sad. She couldn't believe he didn't have any contact with her for a week and then dropped out of their date. She texted back something like, "Oh...okay...I guess I will see you when school starts then." His reply was something like, "Sounds great! See you then." Jorja didn't know what to make of that, but she knew it made her sad.
Spencer didn't contact her at all after that. He was pretty much ghosting her and she didn't know why. Jorja sent him a message today that said something like 'I feel like ever sense I said yes to you something has been off. I'm not sure if you have lost feelings for me or what, but I want to know what is happening so I don't waste my time or yours.' She was a lot more articulate, I'm sure. She is in Nauvoo right now, so I can't check. Anyway, he said he was on his way home and could he take her out for ice-cream so they could talk, because this was important to him. They agreed for Jorja to text him after her date. Anyways, Jorja met him at the neighborhood park at 11:00. Spencer told her that he was at the temple and had a prompting that he needed to break up with her. He pushed it away, but when he went to the St. George temple the prompting was even stronger. That made Jorja mad. Isaac (not the one she had her lunch date with) used to use that line on her all the time too. Jorja sees it as a cop out. She felt he was being completely fake with her. She asked him if he was ever planning on telling her. Spencer would have just let her go on this trip and be gone for another three weeks with her wondering what the heck was going on. Not cool.
The other reason Spencer gave for breaking up with her was they grew apart while she was in Taiwan. That made Jorja mad. She told me that he never even asked her about her trip. He was blaming this once in a lifetime opportunity on their breakup. She was shocked. She was also annoyed that he broke up with her when she had planned on breaking up with him. Now she feels like a loser that no one can stand to be with. Her words, not mine. Spencer kept saying things like, "I'm sorry you feel that way." That bothered her so much. Like he wasn't taking any responsibility for being a jerk. He doesn't need to keep dating her if he doesn't want to, but ghosting is a jerk move, and extremely cowardly. Jorja finally said, "It's okay. You're just like any other boy. You just want the chase. As soon as the girl says yes you get bored and move on." I don't think he really liked being told he was just like every other boy. When Spencer walked her to her car he told her they should go on a date when she gets back and 'he decided it will be fun.' Wow. Jorja said to me, "So, I'm someone who people have to decide to have fun with before they hang out with me. I'm not a fun person, they have to consciously decide to have fun with me." He also told her that on their date she could tell him about her trip. She said, "So, you didn't want to know a thing about my month long stay in a foreign country staying with host families, but you will want to know about my week long trip to Nauvoo? I don't think so." Then she got in her car to drive away. Too bad her car door is broken and sometimes she has to readjust the handle. This was one of those times. She got out to fix her door and said, "Well, this is awkward." Hahahaha. I love her!
Anyway, Jorja and I talked for a long time. She is a bit sad, but mostly mad. She didn't see this coming from Spencer before she left for Taiwan. The thing that bothers me is right now she is vulnerable. Her face has broken out and she is completely embarrassed by it. It is really taking a chunk out of her self esteem. This was not good timing. Still, I'm glad for her not to have a boyfriend. I don't like them. I haven't liked any of the boys she has liked except one. Life would be so much simpler if she could keep the boys at arms length. Maybe this experience with Spencer will help her do that. One can always hope.
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